please tell me I’m not alone in this…
I awkwardly turn it into a high five.
I don’t understand why patrons need to touch, hug, or have contact with me. I don’t randomly go up to people in the grocery store and pat them on the shoulder and thank them. Just not a touchy person UNLESS I KNOW YOU PERSONALLY. LIKE, MORE THAN AS A PATRON.
So, I started having odd symptoms lately. Finally made an appointment after Hubby mentioned that they sounded a lot like the gallbladder symptoms his sister had. Or an ulcer.
Tomorrow I go in and talk to the doctor. I’m a bit nervous and hoping it’s “just” a virus. Granted, when I called and made an appointment, it didn’t seem to bode well that they put me on hold and had a nurse come on and talk to me. One of the first questions she asked was “Do you still have your gallbladder?”
What I don’t like is that I worry about how it looks at work. Gone over the weekend, left early Monday and am gone for two more days. To add to the list of things that haven’t gone right lately - my back keeps acting up and my heel spurs seem to want to come back randomly. And we’re being told to shift books because apparently, they changed plans in the middle of the stream and now we’re shifting things BACK.
I’m a bit cranky. I’ve been inside, and the weather is gorgeous. No rain, the river is receding, and my garden needs to be weeded. And there’s sheep fleece that needs to be taken care of, but I slept, didn’t do much, and hated it. (Okay, it’s not like I would have been able to do much between the feeling like crap and back pain, but I could have at least gone outside and picked some herbs.)
A while ago, I penned a fairly angry response to something circulating on the internet – the 21 Habits of Happy People. It pissed me off beyond belief, that there was an inference that if you weren’t Happy, you simply weren’t doing the right things.
I’ve had depression for as long as I can…
This is a good list. As someone who is dealing with depression, being told to just “be happy” and to “change my outlook” and to be “more optimistic” doesn’t help. It actually makes me feel worse because I’ve tried. Or that day, the depression feels like too much and just making it to work and through the day is about all I can do.
Bun in the oven
There are more, but those are just the ones that came up from one program.
5 Ways to be a Happier Creative
We all know the tortured artist schtick. To be honest, I can be a downer sometimes myself, but I think it would be terrible for us to all perpetuate the idea that being creative and miserable are mutually exclusive.
So here’s to being creative and actually enjoying it:
1. Refuse to See Your Entire Life Either as a Success or a Failure
The idea here is to never buy into the lie that your life is either successful or failing in terms of your creative output. Think of the most successful creative person you can, if you look closely you can see a series of successes and failures.
The best way for me to look at the creative life is as a series of projects which can be successful in some ways and fail in other ways. For instance, some projects are really successful in the development of your skill but not financially advantageous.
Also, don’t believe that there is some level of success where you have now “arrived” or attained a level of success which can never been denied to you, like being hailed a “creative genius” with endless financial gain, forever. I could tell you many examples of artists and musicians who seem like they have “arrived” with one project and then completely fail the next.
2. Make Something Everyday
Will Bryant says something like, “I make stuff because if I don’t I get sad”. A silly and profound statement. Last year I did a daily drawing project where I created a new character every weekday. I found this statement to ring very true.
This practice gave me a sense of creative productivity every single day, which is a serious morale booster. Even if you don’t show anyone, it can help you feel prolific and unlimited in your creative abilities, which in turn increases your confidence.
3. Be Authentic
This is huge. Many people have done amazing things in creativity and have received many rewards, successes and prizes for them. So there is a lot of incentive for YOU to be THEM. But the trick is knowing the truth: you CAN’T be them. Trying to be something you are not will make you feel like an old sock. You already know this, but I thought I’d remind you.
4. Know Your Purpose
Shooting aimlessly into the dark can feel like…shooting aimlessly into the dark. Your purpose doesn’t have to be mind meltingly important. I like the humble yet ambitious purpose the great Debbie Millman has taken upon herself to “try to make the supermarket more beautiful”.
Try to clarify what you want to achieve overall so that everything you do has a sense of purpose. Purpose equals meaning, and to most creatives I know, a sense of meaning is why they want to make art and why they DO NOT want to work in a factory.
5. Address and Defeat Your Fears
That dreadful fear is a bully that is killing your soul and it should be stood up to. Listen to it, don’t ignore it. Hear what it’s actually saying and then dismantle it. Talk to someone about it openly, if the fear is tied to reality, then face it and take it down with integrity. If it’s all lies, all smoke and mirrors then let it disappear in the cloud of smoke that it is. If you are doing super boring unadventurous work, you won’t have any fears at all…but who wants to do that?
Hope this makes you a bit happier today.
- Andy J. Miller
P.S. To tackle the piling up questions here on this tumblr I have started taking on 1 hour video creative coaching, for more info click here.
Thank you Andy ! I needed these reminders today.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU
Reblogging so I can find this later.
RULE 1 OF TUMBLR: Must reblog the creator every time he appears on your dash.
if it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t have met some of the best people I have in my life right now.
Oy… He appeared again. Sorry. I’m a wannabe librarian. I’m not generally a rule breaker.
Rule #1 of Tumblr:
you must reblog our creator whenever he comes up on your dash
david karp looks through the notes of this post, puts all the urls he sees onto the safe list, then deletes the rest of the blogs. reblogging this post is like when the jews put the lamb’s blood on their doorposts so the angel of death wouldn’t kill their firstborns.
Must reblog for that comment
That comment, my God..
I have no firstborns, and am not the firstborn. However, he may decide to take my cat instead. I can not let that happen. Moggie must live.